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Dec 8, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

Excellent article indeed. Practical and to the point. When will the "How to give feedback" part will be released? it was mentioned that it is going to be the weekend's premium article.

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Dec 1, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

16. Dissociate identity from behaviour: The most important takeaway from this article. When you give children feedback, separate the behaviour from the "self". If adults can be vulnerable to feedback then imagine how vulnerable children are before they have even had a chance to fully develop their sense of self.

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Nov 30, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

Very good column on an important topic. And maybe, sometimes for some: Feedback receptivity is a measure of perception. Feedback processing is a measure of personal awareness. Feedback utilization is a measure of its worth within one's own personal place (state) and capability. And feedback's response is a measure of one's character (maturity) and social (behavior) intellect.

In regard to number 16: It maybe the most critical suggestion to understand and practice. Removing one's ego (identity) from the human interaction among team or colleague frameworks improves objectivity. In developing a 'feedback viewpoint' it can be helpful to always separate yourself from your position and production (paper, speech, performance). If the feedback framework forces the topic under review to be something outside oneself (a thing) then mercy, kindness or internal consideration is not (or less important) needed for one to consume the fruit of feedback, no matter its fineness or rawness. If one can do this, in some measure, one's attitude with behavior, and its response, is transformed as a measure of one's openness to realities gifts.

Th mechanics of social interactions (manners) is often left to the vagaries of life. Viewing manners, in this case feedback, as a serious device for achieving friction-less harmony and mutual learning toward benefit. It simply becomes a 'measure' of subjective optimization.

Thanks again for your article and work!

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Dec 16, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

I have been unable to locate the how to give feedback article. HaveI somehow missed it or has it not been published

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Dec 8, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

Thanks for sharing your insights about feedback! Though I no longer give feedback to colleagues, your 18 tools are very relevant to family and friends (as others have pointed out). And besides, I find your writing style appealing and your sense of humour worthy of a very charismatic asparagus!

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Hey Tomas! Curious about your cited research. The first paragraph points to research that has been officially 'debunked' - notes at the bottom of the HBR article: "*Authors' Note: The journal that published this study has since expressed concern about the data. We first became aware of this research in Kim Cameron's book, Positive Leadership. Like many others, we were distressed to learn of the incorrect data in the Heaphy and Losada research and we immediately ceased our citations upon learning that the study wasn't correct. But we do believe the basic assumption and premise that leaders should provide more positive than negative feedback is correct."

And then the research cited in your second paragraph actually points out the debunking.

I'm happy with the rabbit hole I went down because I learned a tonne, but thought you should be aware in case your readers took the first paragraph as truth, when it really isn't. Or at least isn't backed by that particular research.

All that aside, super helpful and timely. As someone with ADHD who suffers from rejection-sensitive dysphoria I'm always looking for more information about receiving feedback, so this was helpful in many ways. Thanks!

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Nov 30, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

you clearly propose what others think disorderly

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On the eight day of Christmas my truelove sent to me eight maids a-milking

I wonder what percentage of the world’s population don’t know where milk comes from.

The thought for today is about Disconnection and how it relates to the problems of the world. Disconnection from the origins of the things we consume, but also disconnection from other people. Disconnection between leaders and their followers, between the old and the young, between people in the same community.

Disconnection between actions and consequences so that there is no feedback loop to modify our actions in the future. Disconnection between reason and emotion as we strive for rational thinking.

As with most things in life, disconnection isn’t necessarily bad, but I think it is important to be aware of it, question it and keep some balance.

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Thomas, I forgot an answer to a question. I know you already replied in twitter a while ago but I can’t find the answer. What software do you use to plot your graphs?

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