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May 19, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

Great article, thanks! will you talk about cognitive load/metacognition next and how it could influence your ability to have a meta representation of the conversation itself? In any case, I am looking forward to read the next article on this topic.

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May 18, 2021Liked by Tomas Pueyo

This was an interesting topic. I liked the graphical representation of the various conversations. The rat-hole graphic explained itself nicely.

I got biased by the first sentence, thinking this was about work productivity exclusively.

Instead, this could be about being a better conversationalist, a better listener, a better ...

And used the workplace conversation as illustrative.

Overall, a great refresher and informational tool to be thoughtful, focused, and listening when in a conversation.

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So happy to have found this article! I have found communities where it is common to find many people capable of '3D conversation' - this skill is actively practised. We refer to it as 'being on the dance floor vs being on the balcony', and have a bunch of activities that teach this skill... conversation mapping, tracking various facets of conversation (emotional levels, logic, meta-intents...). I'll definitely be sharing this piece as a great introduction to the concept!

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Oh wow - this reminds me of Jeff Conklin's work on Dialogue Mapping

+ Wicked Problems. I've tried to do this (mapping/tracing) in meetings, but it's extremely challenging to do it while participating! https://www.amazon.com/Dialogue-Mapping-Building-Understanding-Problems-ebook-dp-B00ANVNAF8/dp/B00ANVNAF8/

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